Saying “No” is Hard

Saying “No” is Hard

A Conversation About Boundaries with Meaghan Welfare

About the Video

It can be a challenge to say “no.”

Many of us lack confidence in our ability to articulate our limits and to defend our boundaries. Conversely, we have all felt the sting of judgement or rejection when confronted with someone else’s boundary. Our preferences, values, history, and past experiences inform how we do (or do not ) set boundaries and the ways in which we perceive other people’s boundaries.

In this conversation, Meaghan Welfare and Françoise Mathieu discuss common fears and concerns about setting limits, the distress helping professionals can experience from “imposed” boundaries, and share strategies to set and receive boundaries in a healthy way.

Recorded in January 2021 as part of the Psychological PPE Program.

About the Presenters

Françoise Mathieu
M. Ed, RP

Françoise Mathieu is an educator, speaker, and trauma-trained therapist. She is the author of The Compassion Fatigue Workbook, founding member of the Secondary Traumatic Stress Consortium, and the Executive Director of TEND.

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Meaghan Welfare
BA

Meaghan Welfare is a conflict management practitioner at the Department of National Defence at CFB Kingston. In this conversation, she shares her lessons learned about boundary setting and strategies to navigate the difficult task of saying “no.”

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